Sat Nam Grounding

Too often, we bind ourselves by our own thoughts. I know I certainly do. I wake up thinking, Today is going to be a terrible day, and the day is terrible because I view it through that perspective.

Wellness of mind, body, and soul is determined by perpetual thought. “That which you allow is what will continue,” or as my mother says, “The vibrations you send out into the Universe are the same that will echo back to you.”

Truthfully, there is no denying the power of thought. Our thoughts:

1). govern the way we conduct ourselves,

2). measure intake for our perspectives,

3). shape who we are and who we will be,

4). and set the tone for our human relationships.

That last one resonates to me lately. We are comfortable with others who treat us the way we treat ourselves. Put another way, how we treat ourselves sets the standard for how others treat us. 

Throughout my awareness, I have noticed the stages I personally go through in relationships (whether friendships or romantic):

a). The comfortable, compassionate, understanding stage

b). The limited, irritable, frustrated, “quitter” type stage

Looking back, both stages directly mirror how I was treating myself at the time.

In my longest relationship, I was in college and committed to bettering myself. I was patient with myself, knowing I was in progress. My relationship mirrored that. But once graduation was within sight, I began to panic. What was I going to do with my life? What if I wasn’t good enough to have and do the things I wanted? What if…

Those thoughts reflected in my relationship. I broke it off, and not in the most cordial of ways… it was a mess. I was a panicking mess.

Now, I find myself in a similar state. Change is afoot again. And I am scared, I want to run. I forget to remember that this too is a time of progress, and that I need to be patient before I set my life up in flames. My current negative thoughts are infecting my relationships, and I find myself blind to it until I actively observe.

To avoid setting fire:

1). Be kind to yourself

2). Sit patiently with yourself in a quiet space

3). Observe the current dynamics of your relationships

3). Always talk to yourself like a friend